You're busy planning your wedding. You have the perfect venue, the perfect planner, the best caterer. You and your partner are superbly styled and dressed. You've hired an excellent photographer and highly respected film makers to capture the day. And, you have 5+ attendants on each side. Let's imagine several different ceremony venues:
1. You're marrying in an beautiful, historic church like the Old North Church in Boston. The area where the ceremony will be taking place is 10-12' wide. Your attendants will be lined up on either side, curving around the couple. Very sweet. But consider: without being in the way (standing in front of your guests or hovering behind you and the officiant) where will the photographers and film makers be shooting from? Ideally, we should all be off to the side - but the side aisles are blocked. The pew boxes have 4' sides and the floor creaks.
2. You're having a Jewish wedding, and a stunning Chuppah is being created. The Chuppah is 8'-10' wide. Your plan is to include the following under the Chuppah: The couple, the rabbi, the cantor, both sets of parents, 1.5 sets of grandparents, your BM and MOH and of course, all 10 of the attendants will be lined up in front. It will be a very intimate huddle. Sweet. BUT - where will your photographers and film makers be filming from?
Few planners and fewer couples consider how to have the ceremony filmed/photographed in these situations. We all want to be invisible, yet capture every meaningful moment. How can we do that without having room for our bodies, our cameras, our tripods or monopods?
Here are a couple of options:
1. If there's no room for your attendants to be standing during the ceremony without forming a tight huddle, have them sit. They can process and recess as part of the wedding party, but during the ceremony they can have a perfect view of the couple by sitting in the reserved front pew.
2. If you're having a Chuppah, consider the venue and the ideal number of people you wish to have standing under the Chuppah. If you want a crowd, have a BIG Chuppah. How big? As big as it needs to be to provide a foot of space between each of the people under the Chuppah. That way, your photographer(s) and film maker(s) have room to shoot without blocking guests or becoming part of the wedding party.